I often find it hard to find balance between my eager urge and excitedness to always say YES and lovingly saying NO. I mean…I LOVE pleasing people and am always down for a good compliment and/or a job well done (leo problems). I LOVE helping people and LOVE seeing their bright, shiny faces of deep gratitude.
There lies the question of balance.
Before I found yoga I literally didn't have the word, NO in my vocabulary.
Only in the feeling my body gave me as a sign I probably should have said NO.
By that statement, I mean my body would hurt of tightness in all of my muscles, sickness and fatigue would develop, rage would begin and that constant knot in my stomach remained.
Here comes the fake smile.
I realized I hated living life this way. It felt like I wasn’t being truthful to myself and I thought there had to be a better way.
Practicing yoga and connecting to my inner power has given me refreshing insight and the “ah-ha” moment of saying no to something that no longer serves me.
I would worry of offending someone.
Would they think I was a total lazy B now?
I would spin in circles in the craze of “should’s”…oh all the reasons we should do something, right?
I would become resistant to people whom I loved just because I wasn’t honoring myself.
Instead of closing people out I just said, “No, that isn’t going to work for me today”. BOOM. DONE. It took people a bit to get used to my new way of being.
One of my favorite yoga teachers, Suzie Newcome always says, “You train people how to treat you..retrain them”.
Thats just it! We have a choice in every moment to step into a new way of being, a more powerful you.
I realized that my health wasn’t worth compromising.
That life happens and sometimes we aren’t meant to do something.
We all have an inner guidance system…the people asking me are using theirs…I should probably use mine.
Yoga has connected me to my truth.
My ability to STAND for something.
In this circumstance of practicing saying no I am taking a STAND for my time and honoring what I need to best serve what I need RIGHT NOW.
What in your life are needing to say NO to?
What SPACE would this give you?